Field notes for a hotter marriage.
Research-grounded, refreshingly direct essays on desire in long-term relationships — with the creators who show what articles can't.
The First-Move Problem: Why Initiating Feels Impossible After Year Five
You can close deals and speak in meetings, but you can't put your hand on your own wife's waist. The awkwardness is structural, not personal — and the workaround isn't courage. It's shrinking the move.
Desire · ParentsHow to Get Your Sex Life Back After Kids (Without Waiting for "Someday")
"It'll come back when things calm down" is the most expensive lie in modern marriage — things never calm down. Mari's realistic playbook for parents: anticipation on a budget of twenty minutes and no sleep.
New territory · The numbersIs It Normal to Want BDSM in a Loving Marriage? The Data Says You're the Majority
You love her. You also want her wrists pinned over her head. Luna on why those two facts live together perfectly — and what the research says about everyone quietly sharing your secret.
Reset · The evidenceIs Porn-Induced ED Real? What the Science Actually Says (Both Sides)
One camp calls it an epidemic, the other calls it a moral panic — and both wave studies at you. Ali reads the actual research so you don't have to, and ends with the only experiment that settles it for you personally.
Desire · Long-term couplesWhy Did My Wife Lose Interest in Sex? The Real Answer Isn't What You Fear
It's not your body, it's not another man, and it's probably not even you. Mari on the quiet mechanics that turn a wanting wife into a polite one — and the lever that actually moves.
Why It Fails Exactly When It Matters Most: The Performance Anxiety Loop
Fine on ordinary nights, gone on the night you planned for weeks. That's not a coincidence and it's not your body failing — it's a loop with a name, a mechanism, and an exit.
Why Doesn't She Orgasm With You? The Gap, the Data, and the Fix
Ninety-five percent of men usually finish. Sixty-five percent of women can say the same. Mari on the 30-point orgasm gap — what the research says actually closes it, and the mistake that guarantees it stays open.